This is, admittedly, less of a fact-driven piece and more an opinion-led article, but it’s one I’ve wanted to write for a couple of weeks, and whenever I spot MGTOW stuff online, the desire to write this post grows, so here goes. I think I know what leads some men to declare themselves ‘out of the game’.
(do they even understand what they’re rebelling against?)
In some cases they might have been burned in some way. They’ve lost money, property and perhaps a significant chunk of their emotional investment in a relationship because, rightly or wrongly, their wife/partner has played them like a puppet. Does this sort of thing happen? I don’t doubt it. Is it what happens in every case? I very much doubt it.
Another likely scenario for men becoming MGTOWs is because all of a sudden, women aren’t bending to their every last whim. Women are becoming less tolerant of debasing attitudes and behaviour, and want a greater say over their own destiny. This is a distinct threat to the classic, conservative ideals I’ve observed are pretty common among MGTOWs. They might post articles that are critical of feminism and feminist ideals, but their true wishes shine through in not-so-subtle forms, like putting pictures of half-naked women throughout their posts. They want to objectify women, and the fact that women don’t wish to be treated as objects jars with the frail MGTOW ego. The moment women decide to be treated as equals and not property is the moment MGTOWs surface (along with MRAs, though that’s a somewhat different issue), whining at the unfairness of it all.
MGTOWs regularly claim women use marriage as a means of entrapment. That women use the threat of sexual harassment to control and coerce men. It may well be that this happens in select cases – but MGTOWs are curiously silent on the topic of sexual assault against women, or the widespread issue of sexual harassment against women, or the abusive relationships that women are trapped in. Society is still imbalanced in favour of men, and MGTOWs are in denial about this.
I can’t help but think that MGTOWs have completely failed to understand what women actually want – and I don’t understand the obsession with women that a lot of them have, given they are supposed to have ‘gone their own way’.